Thursday, March 24, 2016

What Matters Most

Days rush past like a boat caught in a strong current. Time seems to race itself, bringing sunsets before anticipated. How could days slip by so swiftly, distracting us with details.
Cactus are starting to flower, the beauty of a vivid flower rainbow on desert hillsides. Golden blooms on Palo Verde trees turn a red, brown and green landscape into a golden soft world one could slip away into full of whimsy and light.
What have I accomplished today becomes who have I enjoyed time with? How many moments spent with friends as we grow, heal, laugh, play and share each other's struggles. Of only we could see ourselves with the eyes of our loved one's hearts, how different we would see ourselves. All the little details which warp and look in our minds and hearts would shrink back down and vanish in one long concentrated look.
We keep chasing sunsets, visiting various parks and trails to compare sunset landscapes and spend time with various friends. Who today? Where today? Why not today?
Plans to be made, tasks to be done before heading out to my next gigs, and time to live and enjoy just being.
Each day has a to do list, each day should also have a time to live list- without time to love. It is important to appreciate what you love whether it's sunsets or stand up comedy; swimming or reading our health and mood suffer when we are under negative stress and they suffer even worse when we don't balance the negative with positive.
The desert blooms, Spring wears her loveliest dress and amidst busy days we try take the time to appreciate her before she races into Summer.
May you notice the nuances of beauty around you, the artworks, statues, flowers and people you meet! May they appreciate you as well!

Monday, March 7, 2016

How important are the little things?

Years ago I did as society hinted I should. I married right after college. I did my own divorce shortly after that. The details were all wrong. He did not know my favorite color, my favorite movies, music, or even my goals and dreams. Details. After I left a detail stood out.

For half a year the only change in the shampoo and soap came when I showered. I wondered at how they never changed yet he didn't reek like someone who has skipped using soap would. My brother told me the night I left, he already had a replacement woman over for the night. I was relieved. Perhaps he'd take the time to learn her details. I knew his. They didn't match mine.

Details like body language and general appearance come together to shape how others perceive us.

Have you ever wondered why others treat you in certain ways?

Change your expression. Change your posture. Change your clothes. Change your jewelry. Change shoes. What doesn't change? How mindful are you of you?
Have you tried shifting one habit, one telling detail?

One little change can be the difference between fear or excitement of facing a new challenge.

Our beliefs and assumptions are invisible constructs within us, beautiful and sometimes terrible. Do you know what unspoken rules you've shaped yourself with? They stretch and bend across the page unrecognized in your handwriting, body language and in the words you use. My lessons on handwriting analysis with Ruth Ballard's incredible knowledge and experience has opened new realms of awareness. Analyzing, analyzing and delving into new levels of scientific comprehension of humanity! Humbling, reality shifting, empowering details finally communicate across the barrier of consciousness.

Little things are the difference between appearing inept or masterful; appearing flustered or calm, and they often determine how others respond to us.

What do the little things say about you?